Interview with a Pervert!The following is part 2 of an interview for an American magazine
Dirty-David, King of the swingersSwinging, you know how it works; middle aged, middle spread accountants, judges, politicians, military types, the local catholic priest and people from every other profession you can imagine meet in a suburban house, with their mixed assortment of wives and girlfriends, throw their car keys into a bowl, eat fondue, listen to the Moody blues, drink red wine, pull out a bunch of keys and get jiggy with the owner. Hoping they would pull the keys of someone else’s wife/husband!
This was the image of swingers (then known as wife swappers) portrayed during the seventies and eighties. Granted in the eighties the music got slightly better, but the clientele were perversely the same.
Now, Fast forward to the naughties, gone are the days of car keys in the bowl, no more wondering if the person you have written to from a small ad in a top shelf magazine is going to be fun to meet. Now everything is done at the speed of light.
David, of
http://www.dirty-david.com/ a “straight” swinger since his teens in the late 1970´s was one of the pioneers of internet swingers contacts back in the mid 1990´s, and runs several of the largest swinger’s contact sites in the world. He explains that, “These days swinging is more about everyone having choice, you now choose exactly who you want to play with. One of the results of the sexual liberation over the last 30 years, is that women are very much the driving force behind the scene, what man in his right mind is going to turn down a wife’s suggestion that maybe having sex with another woman or couple could be fun?”David continues, “These days swingers clubs and private parties are to be found in almost every large town in Northern Europe, with more than 10% of the adult populations happily engaged in sexual encounters with people other than their life partner, all with their partner knowledge and consent and normally with their partner engaged in the same three some or four some with them
”Swinging is tolerated to different degrees throughout the western world. Never completely outlawed – where would the judge and chief of police go for fun if they shut the swingers clubs? – it has been underground for most of the last couple of hundred years.
Sexual freedoms first embraced by the Scandinavian countries followed by the Germans and Dutch have slowly crept their way through the whole of northern Europe and down to Spain and Italy. The Greeks – who with the Italians were for thousands of years, very liberated, is the least sexually open of the European countries.
The Dutch and German sexual scene is by far the most progressive, with an almost “anything goes” attitude to all sexual behaviours. Most of the other countries in Europe now accept both heterosexual and bi-sexual relationships as perfectly normal. A poll of sexual behaviour in the UK in September 2005 found that NEARLY 1.5 million British couples have tried swinging to spice up their sex lives, and nine million people, some 25% of UK adults, claim they would like to give it a go.
Swinging, no-strings sex with another individual or couple, once thought to be the preserve of broad-minded middle class couples has now become a mainstream social pastime and poll organisers claim the figures show swinging is becoming more widespread than ever. The survey found most people swing between the ages of 18 and 21 and throughout their 30s when marriage may have dulled their sex lives.
House parties are how most would like to try swinging but seasoned swingers use the internet to make contact.
Now, as we all know, a good party needs a really good host to make it swing (excuse the pun). That’s where David comes in. David moved to Spain in 2004, after several years running swingers parties in the UK. His web based swingers communities were kept well entertained before the move, and now many of them visit him in sunny España. Together with his partner Jo, they regularly invite site members and interested couples or singles from the Costa Blanca to their spacious home in the Spanish mountains.
The two met in 2000, when Jo was in an unhappy marriage, David’s best friend worked with Jo and was aware of her unhappiness in her sexless marriage. He told her a bit about David, and told her that he would know how to give her some fun at the weekend. Jo and David chatted on AOL messenger for a few days, and then David collected her to take her to one of his parties.
As Jo Explains, “I didn’t even know what swinging was, when David told me on AOL I didn’t really believe him, but because Paul had told me I could trust David I went along with him to this party. When I reached Davids house, his partners were busy transforming it from its normal look into a party house, his friends were all really friendly and made me feel right at home. When the guests started arriving I could see that David had not been joking, the girls were all dressed in sexy little bits of nothing, and even most of the guys had made an effort to be sexy”
This night was a real eye opener for Jo, “As the night continued, the house was packed with over 100 guests, the drinks were flowing, the sound of laughter and conversation filled the house. People were drifting upstairs and not coming back down for quite sometime. I took my drink and went into the pool room, and found there were quite a few people already swimming in the pool – naked. I decided to join them, and stripped off my clothes and swam to a corner of the pool to watch. Very soon there were couples having sex in the pool nearby, and others on the side of the pool. Soon David came and joined in the fun with one of the couples. He played with them for a while, and then swam over to me. He made sure I was happy, then said, “Well, this is the moment of truth” He pulled me to him, and started to kiss me, his hands exploring my body. I responded, and soon we were making love in the pool. Soon David stopped and suggested we move somewhere more comfortable. He took me to one of the beds beside the pool where we made love properly, with a few couples standing by watching us”
But Jos first night didn’t end there “After David and I were done, I decided to get a drink, and to see what else was going on. I was quickly joined by a couple, Connie and Mark, who asked me if I would like to go and play with them. I accepted their invitation, and was soon introduced to the joys of sex with another girl, as Connie showed me how much fun 2 girls can have together. I retired for another drink, and was quickly asked back upstairs by another couple. This time I was taken to Davids bedroom, and the door was left open (an open door in a club or party is an invitation to other people to enter and join in or watch) I played with the couple for a few minutes, but we were soon joined by several other people, with hands, pussies, cocks and mouths everywhere. It was a real eye opener, but fantastic fun. That night I had sex with more than 20 people, I have never had quite as much fun as that first night at subsequent parties, but it is still a source of fun and enhancement to our relationship”
Since that night, Jo and David eventually hooked up and became a couple and they have enjoyed themselves, and by their own admission, many others, at clubs, parties and private meetings with like minded people.
Once a party date has been set, and advertised on their various sites, or by David cheekily slipping business cards into ladies jean pockets, still hanging on rails in department stores, in between the pages of menus in restaurants, or in between the jars of coffee in the grocery store. People from all walks of life get in touch, and apply to attend. Each event is different, most are for just couples, and others for couples and single guys. Single women are always welcome. The one thing all parties have in common is that, rather than wait for the action to start, David and Jo are always keen to help get the proceedings underway.
There are understandably, lots of nerves on edge, even the hosts get goose bumps before a party night. Not knowing who of the applicants will bottle it, who will want to play with who, and will the mix be right. It usually is. Not all applicants are accepted, there is a vigorous vetting process. This basically involves whether Jo, who is bi sexual, NOT bi curious, likes the look of you or not. With Jo, interested males beware, visit her site,
http://www.gojojogo.com/, and you will be greeted with the knowledge that she likes to have several men at a time and doesn’t care for men who only last five minutes. One guest, who went for the sprint option, rather than the marathon, admitted to Jo that he had never been able to cum twice. Not the sort of thing you should tell a woman like Jo. Let’s just say, he found out something new about himself that evening.
Of course there are pitfalls to the swinging scene, it’s not for everyone. Some try it and don’t get on with it at all. As David puts it, “you have to set your own boundaries. Before you attend a party, be sure of what you want from it, and how far you are willing to go”. The main problem can be jealousy. Even Jo admits that she gets green eyes at times; David has no such problems, but understands that it can happen. At one party, a couple who had been enjoying themselves suddenly fell out because the male in the equation went too far and played with another couple without his wife being present, this transgressed the rules that they had set before coming to the party, and left her feeling cheated.
The basic rules of engagement are, firstly, NO means NO, only party with people who you are attracted to, and who are attracted to you. Respect your partners’ wishes, and remember that swinging is not cheating. Both members of a couple should be up for it. Talk it through thoroughly before even looking at the various sites on the web, and above all be honest. Oh, and one last thing on the etiquette front, what goes on in the house, between consenting adults, stays in the house. There is only one place for a wagging tongue at a swinger’s party, preferably between Jo´s thighs!
Think about it, sex with lots of different people, no sneaking around behind your partners’ back, in fact, you will probably be lying next to them, instead of lying to them. So who has it right, you decide. For now, swingers of the world, we wish you multiple pleasures with multiple partners, resulting in multiple, oh you know the rest.
For more information on swinging in general have a look at this information site
http://www.what-is-swinging.com/, or to find out what David and Jo have been up to, and parties for the future, log on to
http://www.dirty-david.com/ and link to their other sites from there.
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