What Happens at a Swingers Party?

Over the last few years, swinging has become a talking point between people all over the western world. There are several questions that keep getting asked, and which is the topic of this post:

What happens at a swingers party?

The quick answer is of course, people have sex with strangers.

• The full answer is that people have a good night out, in an relaxing but sexually exciting environment, where they can live out their fantasies in safety.
• sometimes they have sex with strangers,
• sometimes they have sex with their own partners while other people watch
• maybe they watch while another couple have sex
• maybe the woman will play with other men or women while the husband watches
• maybe the man will play while the wife watches

Basically what goes on at a swingers party is whatever the guests at the party want to indulge in, as long as it is in agreement with the other guests.

At a party you will see:

• people naked, semi naked and fully dressed.
• people hin a sexually aroused state.
• people having sex with another person or group of people
• sometimes people having extreme sex involving bondage or sado-masochism
• people living life to the full and having fun

The most common format for a party is that upon arrival guests are relieved of their coats, offered a refreshment, and shown the facilities.

The hosts will introduce the guests to other people attending the party, shown all the playrooms, and given an explanation about what is allowed and not allowed in the different areas.

Most parties have a "safe" zone where people can sit and relax, knowing that they are not going to be touched, or see full on sexual activity whilst in that area.

The safe zone is where you chat to other people and decide if you want to go further and play in one of the rooms.

The other way to get involved in the action is to enter one of the playrooms when it is use, and make an approach.

• Remember if a playroom door is shut, it means don't enter
• If the door is open it means you may enter
• If while watching you think you would like to join in, move closer and touch the arm, leg or shoulder of the person you are interested in playing with
• If the person says no, moves away from you, or shakes their head, it means stop
• If the person says nothing, smiles at you, says yes, then you are invited to play.

When playing, remember that you should make sure your partner is also enjoying themselves, and that the partner of the person you are playing with is happy.

There are a few rules of engagement at parties, sometimes they are published on the websites of the party hosts (see http://www.ddparties.com/ ) sometimes the hosts take it for granted that the guests will know what is allowed and not allowed.

Put simply the most common rules are:

• No means No - if anyone says no when you ask, or attempt to join them, please respect them and retire. If you persist you will be asked to leave the party.
• No hard drugs. Most clubs and party hosts operate a no drugs policy. There are no drugs, with the exception of Viagra and Cialis that have any positive effects for boosting or helping sexual performance, most will actually have a negative effect on your sexual performance. It is also more fun to have a partner who is able to communicate coherently.
• Anyone found using "date rape" drugs, or dealing any drugs will be reported to the police.
  Go easy on the alcohol - a drunk is not an attractive swinging partner, and will impair your performance.
• No pressure - do not try to force anyone to do anything they don't want to do - not even your own partner. Agree before attending the party on what each of you is permitted to do at that event. This agreement can be changed before each party, but do not attempt to change the rules at the party, as this can lead to arguments and a bad atmosphere for the other guests.
• Open bedroom/playroom doors - invitation to others to join them in the room.
• Closed bedroom/playroom doors - please respect the privacy of people in the room - (closed doors are not a preferred action, as it reduces the amount of play areas for everyone).
• Cameras and camera phones and other audio and picture recording devices are not allowed.
• Be open minded - everyone is here for sex and fun. If that is not what you want - please don't attend.
• Don't stand in the bedrooms/playrooms and talk, this is very off-putting for everyone - its ok to watch, preferred if you join in. If you want to talk to someone please go to the lounge or kitchen area's.
• You should assume that the other person will want you to use a condom, always take a supply with you, as not all venues supply them, nor do all guests carry them.
• Always leave with the person you arrive with. We as hosts have had several ladies left behind without money or transport at the end of parties. It is unfair to expect the hosts to either transport, or pay the taxi fare to deliver abandoned partners back to their homes

So now you know. Talk it through with your partner, make sure you are both happy with what happens, and what you want to do at a party, and come along and join in the fun.